Sometimes I scream.
Often times, I shriek.
And yes, there have been plenty of times where I’ve even spanked (Sigh).
Yet somehow, I’m never able to fully get my point across to my children. Somehow those moments where I’m attempting to “discipline,” turn into moments that I wish I could take back, do over, and just plain forget. They are moments that serve as a reminder that my method of behavior modification? Well, it’s just not working. Even worse, it’s also confirming those pesky fears of mine that I am in fact, blowing it (big time) as a mom. I’m allowing my children’s issues with disobedience, defiance, and lack of self-control take over.
I’m becoming the mommy I never wanted to be.
And the reason I’m confessing all of this? Well, I guess it’s because I’m tired. I’m simply worn out from the way I’ve been parenting. I’ve grown weary from the arguing, the fighting, and the way I’ve responded to my children in the midst thereof. I’ve reached the point where it’s time to replace that irritation I’m feeling with empathy instead. I want to rid myself of my temper in exchange for the compassion I itch to embody. And finally, I want to take away my need for yelling and swap it with words of encouragement…the words my children long to hear.
I want to parent more gently.
But what does this really mean? Well, for a new kid on the block like me, it means breathing through the frustration, praying through the commotion, and tapping into my heart a little more (and my anger a lot less). It means not reacting to poor behavior but disciplining in a way that my children will respond to…a way that I can feel good about. It’s about yelling less and listening more.
Hey, we all know how hard motherhood can be, but I want the legacy I leave my children to be so much more than just their memories of the way I disciplined them. Because my kids are my world. They are my blessings. And along with the love I have for my Savior, they literally consume my whole heart.
Friends, I know I will undoubtedly stumble on this journey I’m trekking . I know I will have moments where I fail and fall back into my old way of doing things. I know that there will still be times where my patience will be exhausted, and I’ll end up saying things I wish I hadn’t. But I’m making it my goal to try.
And I know I am not the only out there with this same desire-you know, to love our children and discipline them in such a way that brings no shame, to promote unconditional love, and to learn to communicate with one another effectively.
Because I don’t want to scream.
I don’t want to shriek.
And I certainly don’t want to spank my kids.
As a self-proclaimed (and slightly crazed) Wonder Woman Wannabe herself, Jenny Lee Sulpizio is a Christian wife and mother to three amazing kiddos living in the great state of Idaho. After hanging up her star-spangled bloomers (and that restrictive red corset) a few years back, Jenny now spends most of her “spare” time dishing out the latest in tips, hints, and practical advice when it comes to guiding other mommies through the trenches of motherhood. And when she isn’t cooking, cleaning, starting her latest load of laundry, or attempting to raise her kids right (as in manner-possessing, respectful, God-loving little tikes), Jenny can usually be found writing about it instead. Through her children’s books, personal website, articles, blogs, and as a contributing writer for the online supersite(s), The MOB Society and Moms Together, there’s always plenty of information to relate to, and a whole lot of comic relief to go around.
Jenny is also set to release her debut book, Confessions of a Wonder Woman Wannabe, this September from Leafwood Publishers.
To follow Jenny, read her blog, or to learn more about her projects, please visit http://www.jennyleesulpizio.com.